BCC|YOUTH weekly youth gatherings

series Overview: CREW

Who are the people you enjoy hanging out with most? Your friends, right? They laugh at your jokes, reply to your Snapchats, invite you to the movies, and hang out with you, even when you smell bad or show off your terrible dance moves. And whether you have a huge group of friends or just one BFF, they can have a huge impact on who you are now and who you become later. But have you ever thought about how you got those friends in the first place? Maybe their family just happened to move in down the street from yours or you ended up in the same ballet class. Maybe you randomly sat next to each other in Chemistry or you just happened to play the same sport. While none of those are bad ways to make friends, it’s strange that we leave such an important part of our lives to chance. Perhaps that’s why the Bible has so much to say about how we choose and treat our friends. As we look to the Bible for advice about our friendships, we’ll discover that one of the best things we can do for our crew is to be their friend on purpose.


BOTTOM LINE: Your friends can make you or break you. 

How did your people become your people? Your closest friends, the people you call when you want to do something fun, the peopl you sit with everyday at lunch—how did they become your friends? Why did you choose them to be a part of your crew? When it comes to friendships, these are important questions to ask yourself. Why? Because your friends have the power to influence your life… for better or for worse. And when we don’t carefully consider the friends we allow closest to us, we run the risk of inviting in friends who influence us to make decisions we’ll regret. So to help us gain some wisdom on friendship, we’re going to take a look at Proverbs, a book in the Bible full of advice written by Solomon. If we apply Solomon’s wisdom on friendships to our own lives, we’ll find that the people we bring in to our crew will be the ones who influence us for the best.

The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray (Proverbs 12:26 NIV). 

Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm (Proverbs 13:20 NIV).

To encourage students to use wisdom when it comes to choosing their closest friends. 

Leaders — before you start this week’s conversation with your students, remind them to talk about others the way that they would want others to talk about them. Encourage them that if they want or need to talk about a specific friend, they should do that outside of group. 


  1. How did you become friends with your closest friends? 
  2. Do you think that your friends have the potential to influence your decisions? Why or why not? 
  3. Solomon said, “Walk with the wise and become wise.” How have your friends influenced you positively? 
  4. Solomon also said, “A companion of fools suffers harm.” How is it possible for someone to be a good friend and a bad influence at the same time? 
  5. What are some signs that someone is not making wise decisions in their life? What are some signs that they are
  6. How do know when a friend has your best interest in mind? 
  7. What are the top three characteristics of people you want in your crew? 


Leaders, at some point this week, get in touch with your students and remind them of this week’s bottom line: Your friends can make you or break you.


Week 2 Small Group Questions


To encourage students to see God as a friend who knows everything about them and still remains loyal to them.

Create meaningful conversation. Adjust questions as needed, and don’t feel like you need to answer all of them.

  1. What type of friend do you think is ideal for you (in other words, describe someone who just “gets” you)?
  2. Why is it difficult to believe that Jesus understands what it’s like to be one of us?
  3. One name for Jesus is IMMANUEL, which means “God with us.” What are some advantages to having a God who is with you?  
  4. God knows exactly where you are, and exactly what you’re going through this Christmas. In what ways does that encourage you?
  5. What do you think it means for God to have a friendship with you?
  6. Name something that could get in the way of seeing God as a friend.
  7. What is one step you can take this Christmas in your friendship with God?


Leaders, it’s a great encouragement to know that God is with us. This week, encourage your students in the same way by spending some one-on-one time with them. 



7:00-7:10     Gather

7:10-7:40     Teaching/Small Groups

7:45-8:30    Sojourn Planning (Locations/Spiritual Practices)

Sunday, december 13

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